by Athena Siew
Happiness is not something that we should take it for granted. How grateful it is to be born in a happy family. For those who grew up in a healthy family like me, domestic violence might sound unfamiliar with a sense of distance. It seems to have nothing to do with us, but it may happen in every corner around us.
Hello everyone, my name is Athena. I am a clinical psychologist who is currently being an associate for a non-profit organization named SOLS Health. Many people are curious about my work, and today I would like to share with you some of it:
I have seen all kinds of cases since I worked as a psychologist. I have helped people from having daily stress to suffering from mental disorders, from as young as 2 years old to 70 years old. In 2019, we started to provide mental health services for domestic violence survivors. During this period of time, I have heard many sad stories, but I couldn't tell them to anyone due to protect their confidentiality. It is hoped that with this fundraising event, everyone can give more attention and help to domestic violence survivors.
Most of the time, the victims do not realize that they are being abused at home. They only know that family ugliness must not be publicized, and they feel desperate and dare not ask for help. No matter what age, race, social status, economic conditions, or gender you are, anyone may be victims of domestic violence. According to research, 1 out of 10 women and 4 out of 10 children in Malaysia are currently or used to be victims of violence at home. It takes great courage to be able to leave the perpetrator, and it can only be achieved after endless mental torture. Even if you leave, you might still be entangled in nightmares and flashbacks. It takes a long time and energy to return to normal life.
In the past few years, I have been interacting more with the children and adolescents who have witnessed domestic violence, or have even been affected in the process. They have psychological and physical wounds that cannot be erased. They look like everyone else, but when they talk about their experiences, it is full of fists, alcohol, and violence, and their emotions range from fear, anger to despair.
I still remember that one of the little girls that I helped for a long time asked me: "When my mother and I were beaten and screaming at home, why didn't anyone come to save us? What did we do wrong?" I looked at the small innocent face with tears, my heart felt so painful. We have no way to erase the harm that has been done, but what we can do is to let the children feel the warmth of society again and break the vicious circle where the victims become perpetrators in the future.
I may not be strong enough on my own, but I believe that many a little makes a mickle. This fundraising event is to call on everyone to use practical actions to donate funds and support us to continue providing mental health services to domestic violence surviving women and children, to help them to stay away from their inner struggle and find positive, optimism and hope in life again.
With thanks and appreciation,
Raised of MYR 5,000.00 target.
by Athena Siew
Happiness is not something that we should take it for granted. How grateful it is to be born in a happy family. For those who grew up in a healthy family like me, domestic violence might sound unfa ... Read more
MYR 3,835.92 raised.