支持家暴幸存者重获新生 Support Domestic Violence Survivors to Get a Better Life

in Support of Support Women and Children Domestic Violence Survivors To Be BRAVE

by Athena Siew


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Happiness is not something that we should take it for granted. How grateful it is to be born in a happy family. For those who grew up in a healthy family like me, domestic violence might sound unfamiliar with a sense of distance. It seems to have nothing to do with us, but it may happen in every corner around us.

Hello everyone, my name is Athena. I am a clinical psychologist who is currently being an associate for a non-profit organization named SOLS Health. Many people are curious about my work, and today I would like to share with you some of it:

I have seen all kinds of cases since I worked as a psychologist. I have helped people from having daily stress to suffering from mental disorders, from as young as 2 years old to 70 years old. In 2019, we started to provide mental health services for domestic violence survivors. During this period of time, I have heard many sad stories, but I couldn't tell them to anyone due to protect their confidentiality. It is hoped that with this fundraising event, everyone can give more attention and help to domestic violence survivors.

Most of the time, the victims do not realize that they are being abused at home. They only know that family ugliness must not be publicized, and they feel desperate and dare not ask for help. No matter what age, race, social status, economic conditions, or gender you are, anyone may be victims of domestic violence. According to research, 1 out of 10 women and 4 out of 10 children in Malaysia are currently or used to be victims of violence at home. It takes great courage to be able to leave the perpetrator, and it can only be achieved after endless mental torture. Even if you leave, you might still be entangled in nightmares and flashbacks. It takes a long time and energy to return to normal life.

In the past few years, I have been interacting more with the children and adolescents who have witnessed domestic violence, or have even been affected in the process. They have psychological and physical wounds that cannot be erased. They look like everyone else, but when they talk about their experiences, it is full of fists, alcohol, and violence, and their emotions range from fear, anger to despair.

I still remember that one of the little girls that I helped for a long time asked me: "When my mother and I were beaten and screaming at home, why didn't anyone come to save us? What did we do wrong?" I looked at the small innocent face with tears, my heart felt so painful. We have no way to erase the harm that has been done, but what we can do is to let the children feel the warmth of society again and break the vicious circle where the victims become perpetrators in the future.

I may not be strong enough on my own, but I believe that many a little makes a mickle. This fundraising event is to call on everyone to use practical actions to donate funds and support us to continue providing mental health services to domestic violence surviving women and children, to help them to stay away from their inner struggle and find positive, optimism and hope in life again.

 

With thanks and appreciation,

Athena

 

幸福, 不是理所当然。能够出生在一个幸福的家,是件多么值得感恩的事。家庭暴力对于健康家庭长大的我们来说,有着一股陌生的距离感,看似与我们无关,却有可能发生在我们身边没有注意到的角落。

大家好,我是怡庭。我是一位临床心理治疗师,现在一家非盈利组织SOLS Health兼职。很多人对我的工作充满好奇,今天想与大家分享我部分工作的内容:

从事治疗师以来,我见过了形形色色的案子。从生活压力到各类心理病症,从最小的两岁到年长的七十岁,每天都聆听不同的烦恼,为大家解开心里打不开的结。在机缘巧合的情况下,我开始为家庭暴力的幸存者开始提供关怀辅导的工作。这期间,听到了许多悲伤的故事,碍于要保护他们的隐私,一直无法向大众一一道出。借着这次募款活动,希望能让大家给予家暴幸存者更多的关注与帮助。

被施暴者往往都没有意识到自己是受害者,只知道家丑不得外扬,不敢求助也感到绝望,甚至因为想脱离苦海而产生轻生的念头或行为。不论是什么年龄、种族、社会地位、经济条件或性别的人,都有可能成为家暴的受害者。根据统计,马来西亚10位妇女当中就有1位,10个小孩当中就有4位正在或曾经遭受家暴的伤害。能够离开施暴者需要极大的勇气,经历数不尽的精神折磨才得以办到。就算离开了,也还是会被噩梦与阴影缠绕。要恢复正常的生活,需要超乎想象的时间和精力。

在这几年里,我接触更多的是目睹儿 ,即是目睹家庭暴力的孩童和青少年,甚至在过程当中受到波及,让心理和生理都留下抹不去的伤口。他们外表与其他人一样,但凡说起自己的经历,却是充满了拳头、酒精与暴力,情绪从恐惧、愤怒到绝望。

还记得其中一个我关怀已久的小女孩问我:“当我和妈妈在家被打得痛苦流涕时,为什么没有人来救我们?我们到底做错了什么?”我强忍着泪水看着那天真无邪的小脸蛋,心里有说不尽的心痛。我们没有办法抹去已造成的伤害,但我们可以做的是重新让孩子感受社会的温暖,打破受害者变施暴者的恶性循环。

我一个人的力量可能不够强大,但我相信积少成多。这一次募款活动,就是希望号召大家用实际行动,捐出善款,支持我们继续給予家暴幸存妇女和孩子更多的协助,能让他们远离内心阴影,找到正面的乐观态度与生命希望。

 

祝愿大家,幸福安康

怡庭 上


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